Civil Funeral Ceremonies in Scotland

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Civil Funeral Ceremonies - After the Funeral

Sometimes, arranging a funeral can keep us very busy since, there are all sorts of practical arrangements that need our attention.

Often, it is only after the funeral day that the full impact of your loved one's death is experienced. The quiet house, the little mementos and objects that are still in their familiar place all over the home. No more simple joys like saying 'Good night' or making someone a cup of tea. Feelings of sadness, grief, maybe anger with 'God', are natural feelings. Some 'marks' and 'scars' of sorrow may never leave us.

However, there will come a time when we can move forward and look to the future. Death may remind us of how precious and short life really is, while other people say that death allow them to see life in a new way and, be thankful for the love and blessings we receive from our loved one.

Death can induce feelings of guilt for missed opportunities. Perhaps we never got the opportunity to say a proper 'goodbye' or tell someone they were loved. After the funeral, when the time is right for you, take a few moments to be truly thankful for all that you shared with your loved one.

Talking to a child about funerals and death

The days surrounding a death can be a confusing and disorientating time for young children. When it comes to talking to children about death, it is important to find out what your child already knows and believes about death. Listen to what they know and believe and then provide the facts in simple, honest terms.

We often use euphemisms such as "Granny has passed away", "Grandpa is sleeping," or "we lost Grandma" instead of the words "dead" and "died." Some psychologists claim that these softened explanations can cause fears in young children. Fears, for example, they too may get 'lost' or go for a 'nap' and never wake up. However, it is worth remembering that, children see the evidence of life and death in many areas of their lives. They see and hear about it on the television, in movies and cartoons. Even a simple walk in the park or to school can result in a child seeing a dead bird or other small animal or they may have experienced the death of a pet.

If possible, begin a dialogue with your child about how all living things on this earth will die someday. Tell your child that when someone or something dies, we might feel sad or confused and might even cry and that's okay. Look through photo albums, talk about special memories and their relationship with the deceased. Encourage them to write a letter or draw a picture that can be placed somewhere special.

Children can often have remarkable insights into the meaning of death. You may not be the first adult to talk to a child about death and find yourself comforted and consoled by their wisdom.