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A Service of Thanksgiving for
the life, love and faith of

Janice Dickson

Kirkcaldy Crematorium -
15th May 2008

Janice Dickson was the kind of woman we could all learn from in life because although life wasn’t always easy for her, she had a contented and steady life. Finding her greatest pleasures in what you might call the simplest pleasures of life; family and friends. She was as happy sharing a bottle of wine, or three,  with her daughter Sharon as she was buying her grand children some cheap tacky and annoying toy. Put her in the company of her mum and Wilma for the day or give her the chance to take part in some charity event in Falkland dressed up as a St Trinian’s girl and she was so happy; she really was. And I think that’s why we can learn from the likes of Janice she genuinely believed you only get one life on this earth and you should enjoy the life you have been asked to live on this earth.

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She was also one of those people that everyone seemed to like and warm to. She was funny, enjoyed a laugh and a joke, was calm and laid back, was exceptionally generous to all sorts of people from grand children to Big Issue sellers. She didn’t try to reach much further than she needed in life and maybe that is where we can learn from her. Well its either that or we learn how apparently you get an awfy sore head if you share a few bottles of wine with your daughter or we learn the importance of being able to laugh with your family when they tell you you are a ‘dottery old bugger’. ‘I’m  fifty eight’, she’d say,’ wait till you get to my age’.

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As many people will know there have been a lots of laughs and fun times over the years. One of the classics, of course being the time she met Eck. ‘Cause I’d like you to imagine the scene of a very young Eck with his long hair and his blue van thinking he was a cool dude about town. One day he and a few pals go out for a run in the van and stop off at this café in Falkland. Inside there are a couple of good looking girls, so from the safety of his van, Eck blows one of them a kiss to which she replies with the two fingered v sign. A few days later, Eck has been to the barber ( a huge improvement some say), he’s at the Raith, Janice best friend Gwen is on a double blind date only she has no one to go out with. So she comes up with a cunning plan. I go out with the first person to ask me to dance. Now I hope you can see where this story is going because who should ask her to dance, Eck, only she doesn’t recognise this fine looking man now that he’s had a skelper and trimmed the moustache off. “I know you”, he says as he struts his stuff on the dance floor, “you live in Falkland and last week you gave the v sign to some boy outside in his blue van”. Oh my God says Janice how do you ken all that, “cause”, says Eck “I was the boy in the blue van”- and the rest they say is all history.

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But a great story eh? In fact there are quite a few interesting stories we could tell today about Janice life. About Janice the tom boy who grew up in Falkland and was never afraid of whacking the boys first and asking questions later. About Janice chips  and bean loving days as a teenager and she ate all these things and never lost her lovely slim figure. About Janice the darts shark who won a few trophies in her day. You see, Janice might have not have flown round the world, had some fancy job and house but she enjoyed her life and had good values. She believed in treating other people as you yourself would like to be treated and she absolutely believed that family was the most important thing in life. And I am sure the young Eck Dickson knew that after the twentieth time he had taken her to Tony’s café for another hamburger and coke. I am sure he knew back then that she would be a good mum. Never a softy, she believed in letting kids play in the streets, believed in calling a spade a spade if she had to, believed in working hard in life and believed in looking after her family should they ever need her. Which she did for example after her dad died, she and Wilma were there for there mum because essentially that is what Janice was – a family woman.

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Likewise Alan, Yvonne and Sharon will tell you that they have nothing but good and happy memories of their mum. Mum getting involved in various community and charity events in Falkland and mum being the original party animal. Then there are all the trips to Butlins and Janice discovering something called Country Music and Janice still enjoying her Saturday nights with Eck playing darts and bingo at the local Masonic hall. These were good days back them. I know Eck might claim he’s be in at 5pm and he wouldn’t get his tea till 9pm as Janice was three doors down yakking to her mum and Alan, Yvonne and Sharon might joke about her Special Brew nights but she was a great mum; always there for them, so supportive, so proud of them, especially when her grand children Daniel and Jessica came along. And she was great with them.

Janice DicksonA lot had changed from those days when she was a teenager and she once took a neighbour’s baby down to Kirkcaldy High Street, jumped on a bus and left the baby outside the shop and thought to herself as she went home ‘I’m sure I’ve forgotten something’. A lot had changed since then because Janice just adored kids and she loved the fact that she was a gran. She didn’t mind being called Granny Sherbet by them and  didn’t mind spoiling them rotten; I’m sure that is somewhere in the job description of granny anyway. To care. And basically that’s all Janice did all her life.

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As we said right at the beginning this where Janice found her greatest pleasure in life; as a wife, a mum and a granny. Just being there for her family when they needed her, just caring for them as best as she could. Which in part explains why she didn’t tell her family the full truth of how ill she really was; because she didn’t want them to worry about her. She just wanted life to carry on as normal. That’s why we said she wouldn’t want anyone to be miserable today. She’d want us to laugh at her duck joke and the many hundreds of others she told. She’d want us to laugh at that time this Mother’s Day when out of the blue Sharon sent her mum this gynormous bunch of flowers. Given the fact she rarely ever got a card from her or a telephone call from Sharon when she promised these flowers were a beautiful yet unexpected surprise. 

So let’s us try and not be too sad today. In fact let us be glad that we had Janice in our lives all these years. Let us say that we are so proud to have known her and loved her and let us tell her once more that we will always love her and miss her and we hope and pray we will meet her again one day. That’s all we ask; that Janice is at peace now with her mum and dad and all her family and friends who have gone before her.  But be at peace now Janice, be at peace.

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I know a lot of people were shocked and deeply saddened to hear the news about last week and the family really appreciate all your kindnesses to them in this last few days but one of the kindest acts you could all do today is to not be sad. Janice really wouldn’t want that today. She had a good life, totally loved her family, had some great fun along the way and never ever felt sorry for herself in life. So please, as one last act of kindness, try and leave this service today with a smile on our face for all the good times, for the fun and the laughs so many people have shared with Janice. And if your promise not to cry too much we’ll tell you one of her best jokes.

Did you hear the one about the duck who walked into a bar and asks the barman ‘Have you got any quackers’ Sorry mate he says, we dinnae sell them. So the duck goes in the next day, got any quackers. Sorry mate, as I said yesterday we don’t sell them. The brave duck goes in the next day and again asks for quackers to which the barman says, “if you come in one more time and ask for quackers I’m gonna nail your beak to the bar – got that “. Guess who comes in the next day but this time he asks ‘Do you have any nails?’ No says the barman. ‘You got any hammers?’ No says the barman. “Great” says the duck “in that case you got any quackers?”

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What do you mean only vodka!

There you go, Janice wouldna mind us having a wee laugh today because that’s how Janice family would like the service to be today. To be a celebration of Janice life. We all know how sad and difficult this day is but for Janice’s sake we are going to try and be strong today and think of all the good times and the happy times. Today is our turn to say how proud we were of Janice, to thank her for her care and devotion for her family, for how she never judged you, how she was always there for you. Today in all sincerity and humility we hope and pray she has been rewarded for all her love and kindness on this earth and has been reunited with all her family and friends in heaven. Janice always believed in an old idea of what comes around goes around; that if you do bad bad comes back to you and if you do good good comes back to you. Basically Janice lived her life by saying “it is in giving that we receive” and that’s why we hope and pray that after a lifetime of giving and caring for her family she is now at peace with all of them in the spirit world, is still having a laugh and is looking down on us all right now and is thinking; I had a no bad life. I was happy for all the family and good friends I was given on this earth. Don’t worry for me now, go on and live your lives – that would be her message to us today- to live our lives and enjoy them

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And we must be glad that we knew her and loved her

 

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Rest in peace Janice , rest in peace

 

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Janice's family

We are glad that Janice lived.
We are glad that we saw her face
and felt the pressure of her hand and heart.
We cherish the memory of her words,
her example and character.
We cherish the memory
of the generous and funny things she did,
her concern and care,
her devotion to her family
and, most of all, her love.

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Thank you most of all Janice for just being you

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You have filled your niche in this world and accomplished your tasks

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And you leave this world, and all of us richer, because of you.

And if you don't believe me just look at some of these pictures of - no bad looking lass eh!

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You know what we are going to say here - Eck hit the bull's eye when he met Janice

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Although after all these lovely photographs and outlining the reasons why Eck fell fo Janice, just where did she get ths jumper?

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Mmmmmm!

Nearly as good as this young man's t shirt

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And what do you think she means by this one?

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Was Eck up to something we didn't know about ? Isn't that something this man shold have said?

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And of course this man would have said " I do"

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Although this young man tried his best to win the bride's heart

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It's Ok to have a laugh and a smile, even at a funeral. That is why we called Janice's service a "Celebration" of her life.

In fact these are the sentimenst of the poem we read at the service

 

Now that I am gone, remember me with smiles and laughter.
If you need to cry, cry with your brother or sister who walks in grief beside you.
And when you need me, put your arms around someone
and give to them what you need to give to me.
There are so many people in this world who need so much.
I want to leave you something much better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I’ve known or helped in some special way.
Let me live in your heart as well as in your mind.
You can love me most by letting your love reach out to our loved ones,
by embracing them and living in their love. Love does not die, people do.
So, when all that’s left of me is love, give me away as best you can.

A cursory glance at these photographs will tell you that - that Janice shared love with her family all of her life

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They were a happy couple

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